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Every work-at-home mom struggles in her business at some point. This week’s guest blogger, Shannon Lambert of MakingMommas.com, walks us through some of HER biggest WAHM struggles – and her realization that sometimes you have to let go of your safety net in order to truly fly!

Go Big or Go Home.

Those words always make me see crowded gyms and cheering fans. Rock and roll music blasts through for 30 seconds while the team takes a time-out to figure out a new plan.

How many times do you want to take a time-out, to figure out a new plan in your business?

Is it when things get intense? When the score is completely one-sided and you feel like calling it quits?

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The coach calls the team in for one last pow-wow; one last chance to pull the team together to win this thing. He gives the speech of his lifetime, fully intending to motivate his team into feeling it.

If they can feel it, if they can see the win, then they can pull it off.

Go Big Or Go Home.

Give it your all or get off of the court.

It took me three years to learn this lesson in my own WAHM business.

Are you struggling in your work-at-home mom business? Perhaps God is asking you to let go of your safety net and FULLY trust Him! Come join Shannon Lambert of Making Mommas as she walks us through some of HER biggest WAHM struggles -- and her realization that sometimes you have to let go in order to truly fly! #WAHMbusiness #WAHMbusinesstips #momcareer #SAHMcareer | make money from home | how to start a business from home | mom career decisions | how to be a stay at home mom | how to survive on one income

In Order to Grow Your WAHM Business, You Need to Go Bigger Than Yourself

Over the last three years, I have learned that in order to grow your business, you need to do a few totally not-business-related-things:

  1. First, you need to see that with God, anything is possible.
  2. Second, you need to let go of your safety net and step out in faith.
  3. And third, you need to give it all to the Lord.

God wants to know that you have total and complete faith in Him. He brought you to this, He will lead you through it.

If it is His will for your life, the game will work out in your favor.

You have a teeny, tiny little dream. And it seems so totally impossible at the moment.

But little do you know, God has something even bigger in store for you. He has a God-sized dream. And He is ready to use you for His will — if you will just let go of your safety net and have child-like faith that everything will all work out the way it is supposed to.

Let go of the outcome. Listen to your Coach. The ball is in His court. Be ready to break when He yells out, “one, two, three – TEAM!”

You have a teeny, tiny little dream. And it seems so totally impossible at the moment. But little do you know, God has something even bigger in store for you. ~ Shannon Lambert, Making Mommas Click To Tweet

I wanted to go home, not go big.

My story starts years ago; when my six-year-old was one. I loved him to death and wanted to spend every waking moment with him. I wanted to be an at-home-mom with every single inch of my being.

But I had a career as a social worker, was in debt up to my ears, and had four mouths to feed. There was no way I was ever going to be an at-home mom.

And so I found myself praying, constantly.

“God, give me a way to stay home with my baby. Please.”

Because, even though there was no way I could ever see myself staying home, I did know that God provides miracles. My little baby boy was proof of that.

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But, because I also know that God has a way of providing answers that work, but aren’t exactly what we hoped for, I also added,

“But make sure it’s something good; not something like I’m suddenly disabled or one of my children is sick, hurt or dying. You know, maybe like I’m pregnant with twins or something.”

It was just a suggestion.

Not kidding. Because seriously, God can answer a prayer however He deems fit. But, I didn’t want to take any chances.

Two more babies = good. Disability or illness = bad.

I prayed every chance I got – I was a busy working mom of four boys, the youngest of which was just one. So, I found myself praying in the car, in the shower, as I fell asleep at night…

And a couple of months later, I found out I was pregnant.

With twins.

Huh. Go figure, right?

The Lord gave me a way to quit my job. There was no way I could afford – or even manage – to work with three little babies in daycare. I would be working to pay for their childcare alone.

I had my out, and He even found a solution for my debt.

But I still couldn’t see it.

I found myself home, raising six boys. And even though we didn’t have any bad debt, we still found it incredibly hard to make ends meet. My husband made good money, but it wasn’t enough.

We were slipping, and fast.

I absolutely loved being home with my babies – after that first year, that is. The first year was brutal. (Three babies, all two and under… need I say more?)

But every year after has been pure bliss. Everything I ever hoped and dreamed it would be.

Minus the money. Not having any money is stressful.

Trying to figure out how your husband is going to get to work – that is stressful.

Putting food on the table, paying bills and filling the gas tank all suddenly became the biggest stressors of our lives.

I needed to make some money, and fast.

I didn’t see us surviving much longer.

“The answer seems obvious to me, Shannon.” That was my dad, as I laid it all out for him one day.

Please, enlighten me, dear daddy.

He suggested I start a blog.

With my professional experience, and my personal experience raising babies, it seemed like a no-brainer.

I could work while the kids were asleep. I could write while they play on the floor, right next to me.

It would cost virtually nothing to get started.

And blogs make money.

My WAHM Business Was Born – But I Still Couldn’t See It

So, I did what I always do when I’m lost and confused. I prayed some more.

Constantly. In the shower. While washing dishes. And as I fell asleep at night.

And I started a blog. I wrote when I had time.

But I didn’t go big.

I dabbled in it.

I told no one. I simply started it, shared my first post on Facebook, and kept quiet.

And a few people read my posts and commented on them. Occasionally, my sister shared a post.

But, I made no money. I didn’t even know how to make money with a blog. I doubted that this was what I was supposed to be doing.

And so, I prayed. “God, please give me a way to make some money for my family.”

He answered, but not in the way I had hoped He would. (Maybe I forgot to be specific enough this time…)

He sent me back to work, part-time.

Because I didn’t see it, I jumped through my safety net instead.

I had always wanted to be an executive director. I thought that was the end-all of a fantastic career as a social worker.

And so that is exactly what He gave me. And with the exact pay I had always dreamed of.

I had thought God was giving me an answer to my prayers.

He was providing me with a way to feed my family.

And it was only part-time, so I didn’t have to leave my babies as often. It seemed brilliant.

But it was horrible.

Be careful for what you pray for.

I didn’t even last a year. It was the worst experiences of my life.

But it was oh, so necessary. God was using it to show me that that was not where He wanted me to be.

I found myself back at home again. So alone. And so confused.

And so, I started blogging again.

My WAHM Business Was Growing – But I Couldn’t Feel It

I listened to as many podcasts as I could get my hands on. Some were about blogging and being an entrepreneur. Some were about writing. But, my favorite of all time was Marnie’s Friends.

She provided me with the motivation and faith to continue on.

And boy, oh boy, did I need faith.

As always, I prayed. While painting. While weeding the garden. And as I fell asleep at night.

“Dear, Dear Lord, if this is what You want me to do, then please let me become obsessed with it. Please let me think of nothing else. Please let my desire to be a social worker completely leave my life.”

Because, occasionally, my old boss would get in touch with me.

Just to let me know of an opportunity opening up soon, or something going on back in my old world.

I felt totally torn, one foot in the career world, and one hanging on at home. I knew I had to plant both feet in one place or I’d end up being split apart. But where?

A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the Lord directeth his steps.

Proverbs 16:9

I also needed money. And one place guaranteed it, while the other seemed to be empty promises.

“Dear Lord, if you want me to go back to work, then please let this blogging business totally leave my mind. Please help me to find it horrible and not fun. Let me just forget about it.”

That was 16 months ago.

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I was trying to keep the faith – and the safety net.

I became obsessed with blogging and writing. I absolutely LOVED it. I loved everything about it.

I loved teaching. I loved sharing personal stories. I loved the people I was meeting. I loved designing pins and graphics and monkeying around with my website.

I went from rushing to get the boys down for the nap so that I could wash the floors to rushing to get them asleep so that I could blog.

And I couldn’t see myself ever returning to work.

But I also couldn’t see myself making any money.

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

Hebrews 11:1

Where was all this money people said they made blogging?

It seemed so elusive.

During my lowest times, I’d find myself collapsed on the floor, surrounded by newspapers, bawling. And hunting for jobs.

Bawling, because I didn’t want to go back to work. Every inch of my being wanted to stay home. But looking for jobs because I just couldn’t see us making it any longer.

And so, I applied for a position, as a program manager, back at my old place of work. I had been a program manager there, for a different department. And they had loved me.

I knew I’d get the job.

I cried. And prayed. And did both, while in the shower and while falling asleep at night.

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I didn’t want that job. I wanted to stay home.

But I didn’t see a way out.

“Lord, please. You know I don’t want to work there. Please, if You want me to stay home, don’t let me get the job.”

That seemed impossible. I was shoo-in. They all kept telling me, every time they saw me: they couldn’t wait until I came back to work.

“And please, if You want me to work there, help me to forget about blogging.”

I was so nervous; I botched the interview. It was by far the. most. horrible. interview. I. have. ever. done.

No matter. They knew me. They knew the work I could do. They’d still love me. Right?

I cried again when I got the letter.

I was trying to give it all to Him – and still keep the safety net.

I didn’t get the job.

You would think, through all of this, that I would finally get the message, wouldn’t you?

It is painfully obvious that I was meant to stay home with my children.

I had the desire in my heart. It’s been there my whole life – from the birth of my first child to the birth of the last two. I have always wanted to be an at-home mom.

But, I have always felt the pull of finances. Money is tight. Nearly nonexistent. And the stress on my husband… it feels so cruel, to put him through that just so that I can lay at home all day with my babies.

So, I always find myself back at work.

It is what I do when I get scared.

Instead of giving the fear and the doubt over to the Lord.

A colleague once patted me on the leg, in a sweet, motherly sort of way, when I was pregnant with the twins. “I think we both know where you are supposed to be right now, Shannon.”

If only I would have listened.

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Going back to work is my safety net.

When I started blogging, I always thought, “Well, if it doesn’t work out, I can always go back to work.”

It seems, when you are trying to start your own business, that it is responsible, to have a back-up plan, right? Just in case it doesn’t work out?

After failing miserably as an executive director, I decided to turn the notch up on this blogging gig. I’d give it one year. And if it didn’t work out this time, I would go back to work.

For good.

After just six months, I didn’t think we could hang on any longer. We financially just couldn’t breathe.

“You have to let go of your safety net,” My dad suggested.

No way.

I need that job. If this doesn’t work, I need to know I can always go back to work.

“Okay, give it 18 months,” he advised.

Again, no way. I need money. Now. Not 18 months from now.

My husband and I decided I would try through the end of the summer.

And come September – just one short year after I started seriously trying to make this blogging gig work, I would go back to work, if it didn’t work.

Whenever times get tough, I think maybe I am barking up the wrong tree. Maybe I’m supposed to be working. Maybe I misunderstood what God was trying to tell me.

In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.

Proverbs 3:6

September came and went, but I had absolutely no desire to go back to work. And no money. Still, a deal is a deal. And so, I started looking.

But I didn’t find much.

“It’s okay”, my husband said. “Just keep trying to make blogging work. I don’t really want you to go back to work anyway.”

BAM. First time he ever said that.

And that changed the game.

See, when a woman works outside of the home, a man has to step up and help out A LOT around the house – well, at least my man does. Because there are 8 of us. There’s no way I could balance everything and work – all on my own.

I put my heart and soul into blogging and freelancing.

October. November. December. January.

I was absolutely in. love. with. blogging. Seriously.

My life was so utterly and completely perfect, if only someone would pay me to blog.

And suddenly, I knew what I had to do.

And my husband’s endless support made it possible.

Go Big Or Go Home.

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

2 Timothy 1:7

In December, I went through our finances. And figured out a way to clean it all up. I quickly saw that if we made a few hard choices, it would give us a little breathing room.

And then I’d stop feeling like I had to go back to work every. single. time. things. got. tough.

If we could learn to live on what my husband made, that would give me more time to make this work. The pressure would be lessened and we all could breathe a little more.

If we made a few hard choices, it would give us a little breathing room. Then I’d stop feeling like I had to go back to work every. single. time. things. got. tough. ~ Shannon Lambert, Making Mommas Click To Tweet

It was time to let go of the safety net.

In January, my former boss reached out to me one more time. And I knew what had to be done.

Go Big Or Go Home.

I emailed her back and thanked her for letting me know. And told her I had no intention of ever coming back to work as a social worker.

I let go of my safety net.

I was so scared. My hands shook as I typed out the email. My heart raced. I hovered over send for what seemed like ages, before I finally hit the button.

And then my heart soared.

I was free!

Totally and utterly free to depend solely on God and His will for my WAHM business.

Win or lose. Money or none. Loads of readers or just you. It doesn’t matter. It’s not mine anymore. It’s His.

For Him to do with as He sees fit.

I give it to Him. I give the success of it to Him. I give the failure of it to Him. I give my writing and creating to Him to use for His will.

I put the ball in His court. He is the coach. He calls the shots.

And I am ready to break as soon as He yells, “ONE, TWO, THREE TEAM!”

And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.

Psalm 1:3


Shannon Lambert is a freelance writer and parenting blogger at Making Mommas.  A former social worker, she spends her days playing and hanging out with her six boys. She’s convinced that the foundation of all parenting begins with the parent-child bond! You can also connect with Shannon to find support in navigating those early years of raising children. And don’t forget to check out her FREE guide for how to structure your days – and THRIVE – as a SAHM!

Are you struggling in your work-at-home mom business? Perhaps God is asking you to let go of your safety net and FULLY trust Him! Come join Shannon Lambert of Making Mommas as she walks us through some of HER biggest WAHM struggles -- and her realization that sometimes you have to let go in order to truly fly! #WAHMbusiness #WAHMbusinesstips #momcareer #SAHMcareer | make money from home | how to start a business from home | mom career decisions | how to be a stay at home mom | how to survive on one income