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As stay-at-home moms, it’s easy to put our careers on a shelf. But we need to keep them in mind! Here are my top 3 reasons why mom careers matter for SAHMs.

When we’re raising babies, we’re often so focused on those kiddos and our home that our careers often feel like forgotten memories from a previous life. We love being a mom! And we’re completely committed to being the best mom, wife, and home manager we possibly can be.

Okay, maybe that’s glamorizing the SAHM life just a bit…

We DO love being a stay-at-home mom. But, we’re also EXHAUSTED from trying to do all the things that need to be done, not completely screw up our kids, and keep our heads above the ever-rising water.

It’s a never-ending rollercoaster that rides the mountain-top joy of being a SAHM, then plummets to the depths of despair, loneliness, and anxiety.

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One of the things I’ve found to help even out that rollercoaster just a bit is to keep the one eye trained on my career. I know, it sounds ridiculous. It sounds like I’m just adding one more thing to my already full plate.

BUT…

It’s actually helped me be a better wife, mom, and homemaker to have something that’s MINE to work toward for a few hours each day. It gives me something bigger than just me, my family, and my home to focus on, dream about, and work toward.

I recognize that not all moms may understand WHY having a mom career – especially an at-home career WHILE we’re raising our babies – is so important. So, allow me to walk you through a few of the big reasons why mom careers matter for SAHMs.

As stay-at-home moms, it’s easy to put our careers on a shelf. But we need to keep them in mind! Here are my top 3 reasons why mom careers matter for SAHMs. #momcareers #WAHMbusiness #SAHMcareer | make money from home | work from home jobs for moms | SAHM resume | going back to work | mom career decisions

Why Mom Careers Matter – Reason #1:

Many SAHMs will go back to work once their kids are older.

If you think about many of the empty nest mamas you know, you can probably list off several who stayed home while their kids were little and then went back to work. In her book, Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg states that 43% of moms leave the workforce after having kids. Of those who leave, 74% will eventually go back to work in some capacity and 40% will return to full-time work.

My mom is a prime example of the empty-nest/career re-entry story. She was a nuclear medicine tech before babies and was then home for the 25 years it took to raise my two brothers and me. But once I went off to college, she saw the empty-nest years fast approaching and decided to go back to school to get her nursing degree – something she had always wanted to do. By the time my youngest brother left for college, she was working full-time in a nursing home.

When I left my higher ed. job to stay home with Mini-Me several years ago, I just assumed I would eventually go back to work. My mom did, so why wouldn’t I?

Whether you follow this pattern by example or simply because it works best for you and your family, many of us WILL go back to work in some way, shape, or form. It’s why I talk so much about how stay-at-home moms need to think about their resumes NOW, rather than waiting until they need them again several years down the road. It’s a statistical probability that we SAHMs will eventually return to the working world.

Mom careers matter for our future!

Why Mom Careers Matter – Reason 2:

We need to remember who we are.

Once we become mothers, we can become so caught up in all the craziness and busyness of life that we forget who we are and who we were created to be. Our worlds become all about our kids, their wants and needs, and our desires and dreams don’t just get put on the back burner. They get put in the freezer and buried under piles of baby food and crockpot freezer meals.

Rachel Norman from A Mother Far From Home wrote in her article about surviving her identity crisis as a mom,

“I used to be self-assured and self-aware and very clear (at least in my own mind) about who I was. I knew my tastes and likes and dislikes. I even know myself so well I can find things I lose by saying “if I had it right now, where would I put it?” I’m right 95% of the time, no matter how obscure the location. That’s cause I’m predictable and if it ain’t broke, I don’t fix it. However, after months and months of focusing on babies 12 hours a day, and sometimes on into the night, I started to lose touch with myself. I remember sitting on the couch thinking “oh my goodness, who am I? What do I like? What would I do right now if I could? I felt so far removed from the Rachel I once knew that I felt like a stranger in my own body.”

When we are so prone to losing ourselves in the midst of our identity as mom, is it really any wonder that 28% of SAHMs report feeling depressed?

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No matter how much we love our jobs as moms, waking up one day and realizing we don’t know who we are or what our life purpose is beyond raising babies is depressing. To fight that feeling of being consumed by our mom lives, it’s critical that we moms find something we can pour ourselves into that helps us find that personal identity and sense of calling in addition to our important work at home.

Mom careers matter for MOMS!

As stay-at-home moms, it’s easy to put our careers on a shelf. But we need to keep them in mind! Here are my top 3 reasons why mom careers matter for SAHMs. #momcareers #WAHMbusiness #SAHMcareer | make money from home | work from home jobs for moms | SAHM resume | going back to work | mom career decisions

Why Mom Careers Matter – Reason 3:

Re-entry discrimination for SAHMs is a harsh reality.

This point harkens back to Why Mom Careers Matter – Reason #1. Most of us SAHMs will return to the working world. However, that doesn’t mean getting a job after being a SAHM will be easy. In fact, it will probably be one of the hardest job searches of your life if you have not taken the time to prepare during your time at home!

The discrimination against and bias toward at-home parents who try to return to work is real and ugly. Kate Weisshaar, an Assistant Professor of Sociology at UNC-Chapel Hill, conducted a study that ultimately concluded that stay-at-home parents struggle even more in their job search than those who are simply unemployed. She says in her article for the Harvard Business Review,

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“The results show just how heavily parents reentering the workforce are penalized for their career gap: 15.3% of the employed mothers, 9.7% of the unemployed mothers, and 4.9% of the stay-at-home mothers received a callback.”

Did you catch that? HALF as many SAHMs as unemployed mothers were given the chance to move forward in their application. And employed moms were over 5 times more likely to get a callback about a job application.

Since it is incredibly likely that we will want or need to return to the working world eventually, it is mission critical that we keep our careers at least in our peripheral field of vision while we’re home with our babies. If we choose to ignore our careers entirely, we’re setting ourselves up to make that inevitable job search FIVE TIMES HARDER for ourselves!

Who wants or needs that?!

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The easiest way to close that career gap while we’re home with our babies is to do something career-focused while we’re home. Whether you choose to do remote tasks at home for a larger company, start your own business, or work in an outside-the-home job just a few hours a week, a small effort to keep your mom career moving forward will greatly reduce the amount of discrimination you face once you are ready to go back to work on a larger scale.

Mom careers matter for our future job search success!

The Good News?

When we do take the time to do something, anything, that helps us build up those mom career resumes, the extra work pays off in spades!

Not only are we doing something that benefits us, we’re also doing something that benefits our kids (We’ll be talking more about all those benefits in another post soon!) AND the working world in general.

I laughed out loud when I read about a study done by the Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis that concluded that working moms “outperformed women without children at almost every stage of the game. In fact, mothers with at least two kids were the most productive of all.”

Is it really any wonder that working moms are the most productive type of women out there? We’ve spent our entire mom lives juggling every aspect of our lives and learning to focus and work when we have a few minutes to spare. We are incredibly motivated to work while we’re at work, so we don’t have to work while we’re at home!

It’s nice to see moms getting the credit they deserve! We really are incredibly beneficial to the workforce, and it’s really important that we embrace that truth and show employers all that we moms have to offer!

As stay-at-home moms, it’s easy to put our careers on a shelf. But we need to keep them in mind! Here are my top 3 reasons why mom careers matter for SAHMs. #momcareers #WAHMbusiness #SAHMcareer | make money from home | work from home jobs for moms | SAHM resume | going back to work | mom career decisions

Ready to Dive into Your Mom Career?

If you are convinced that your mom career really does matter and are ready to start exploring your mom career options, I encourage you to come join our upcoming webinar that will walk you through the 7 Steps to Discover Your Perfect WAHM Business Idea.

When we’re committed to being home with our babies but also want to make sure our mom careers are solid, starting an at-home business can be a great way to do both. (Plus, bringing in extra income for the family budget doesn’t hurt anything at all! 😜)

Come join us to learn more!

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