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Have you ever BLOWN it with your kids? We all have. #MomFail is a thing for a reason! But, as Stacey Pardoe of StaceyPardoe.com shows us in this week’s guest post, there are three powerful truths to remember when you completely fail as a mom. All is NOT lost. Let’s dive in!

It’s quarter ‘til nine on a Wednesday night when I unfurl on the girl I love more than any other girl in the world. After picking up the same fifteen toys a dozen times throughout the day, after the dinner dishes are washed, the little bodies are clad in pajamas, and the little brother is asleep in his bed, I want nothing more than five quiet minutes on the couch before taking my girl to her room.

I stare at the TV and let my mind slip into a different world – some happy family’s world as they live their sitcom-lives. Suddenly, I’m interrupted by the realization that one final toy hasn’t been put away. It rests on the floor in the middle of the room. Did I not just clean this whole room five minutes ago?

“Sweetie, please put away your drawing board,” I politely advise my daughter, who sits across the room on the recliner.

She promptly rises from the recliner, walks to the drawing board, and instead of slipping it into its home between the couch and the end table, she tosses it onto my lap.

This is the moment of my unfurling. “I cleaned up every toy on this floor tonight, and you’re going to throw the last one at me and expect me to do it! I’m not putting this away!” I roar.

She’s in tears immediately, for the sixth time of the evening. “You will not throw one more fit tonight,” I continue my tirade. “I’ve had enough! To the step!” I point to our timeout spot at the bottom of the steps like an angry drill sergeant.

“No!” she manages to force the words out through her sobs. Before I have time to explode again, she holds the drawing board face-up for me to see the words written on it: “I love you. You R the bestest Mom ever. Xoxo.”

I melt. “I’m so sorry,” I say, pulling her to me. She crumples into a ball on my lap.

“I didn’t know . . .” I begin.

“I know,” she interrupts. “Just no more yelling.”

We make up in the final moments of the day. I lie in her bed, and we rub noses before I pray over her, affirm her in a dozen thoughtful ways, and accept her forgiveness.

Have you ever BLOWN it with your kids? We all have. #MomFail is a thing for a reason! But, remember these three powerful truths when you fail as a mom.

Our Tendency to Run from Our Failures

After she’s sound asleep beneath her butterfly bedspread, I close my bedroom door to read God’s Word and end the day in prayer, and I read two pages without absorbing one word. My heart aches for the pain I wrought upon my child, when all she wanted to do was love me. I know I blew it. And no part of me wants to turn toward God tonight.

We have a tendency to turn away in shame when we mess up. We see this often in children. A child disobeys and refuses to make eye contact with his father. But adults tend toward avoidance when feeling shame as well. This tendency isn’t new. It started in the Garden. Adam and Eve were the first to hide. They hid from God after disobeying Him. They hid, as if He couldn’t see them.

It always seemed silly to me, until I realized I’m much the same. I mess up, and my first response is to pull away from God, certainly not draw near to Him. But draw near is exactly what God would have me do. He wants me to draw near to receive His forgiveness for my messy past, and, just as much, He wants me to draw near to receive His forgiveness when I blow it in my present circumstances.

Have you ever BLOWN it with your kids? We all have. #MomFail is a thing for a reason! But, remember these three powerful truths when you fail as a mom.

Receiving Mercy & Restoration

I remember these things as I resist the urge to ignore God after exploding on my child. I remember the truth: though it doesn’t feel like the truth, the truth is that He wants me to come to Him in my broken moments.

“I open my heart to you, God. I truly am sorry for the way I acted.” It’s all I can say. When we really blow it, there are often few words.

In the moment, my heart remembers that He loves me, that He forgives me, even when I blow it. In the moment, I sense God is pleased that I turned my face toward Him and not away from Him. I sense His pursuit.

I scan the index of my worn Bible, in search of a passage on His forgiveness. I’m desperate for Words of truth to wash me clean. A verse comes to mind:

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. ~Romans 5:8 Click To Tweet

In that moment, God’s truth strikes me in a new way. God pursues us in our sin, and the proof is in the reality of Christ’s journey to earth and death on the cross, all while we were still sinners. In the quiet moments, I discover three truths that will forever change the way I perceive my failures as a mom:

1) My Failures Were Paid for, Once and for all

When I completely blow it in my life, God isn’t turning a cold shoulder or staring in disdain with folded arms. Instead, He’s gently reminding me of the cross. He already paid for this sin, and He waits for me to respond by turning to him in my weakness, my failure, and my desperation.

2) When I Pause in the Mist of My Failure and Turn toward the Lord, I Captivate His Heart

As I leaf through my Bible in the dusky lamplight, Song of Solomon 4:9 catches my eye in the aftermath of my unleashing: “You have made my heart beat faster, my sister, my bride; you have made my heart beat faster with a single glance of your eyes.”

When I stop hiding and simply glance in the direction of my Lord and my God, even in the middle of my mom-failures, His heart is stirred with holy passion and love for me. He longs for my attention, my love, and my gaze upon Him.

3) God Waits to Meet with Me and Restore Me after My Greatest Failures

When I blow it big time, eating a sleeve of cookies or a pound of chocolate will only exacerbate the problem. It is most natural to turn away from God – to cower in sin and shame – after I fail and fall to sin. Instead, God is calling me to turn toward Him and receive His healing, forgiveness, and love. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

When I blow it big time, it is most natural to turn away from God – to cower in sin and shame. But God is calling me to turn toward Him and receive His healing, forgiveness, and love. Click To Tweet

When You Fail as a Mom

The painful encounter with my daughter took place several years ago, and I’ve blown it dozens of times since. But one thing is slowly changing – I’m learning to turn toward the only One who can wholly restore me, heal me, and cleanse me.

The next time you want to cower in shame after your moment of failure, take a vulnerable risk and turn toward your Healer instead. He waits with open arms of love.

Take a moment to quiet your mind and review the events of your day:

Are there any situations you could have handled differently?

Do you feel like a failure in any area of your life right now?

Lift your failure to the Lord and receive His truth — If you are a follower of Jesus, every sin was paid for on the cross. Receive His forgiveness and embrace His love today.

Have you ever BLOWN it with your kids? We all have. #MomFail is a thing for a reason! But, remember these three powerful truths when you fail as a mom.

Do You Need Some Help Accepting These Truths?

Sometimes it’s hard to accept forgiveness and restoration when we’ve been hiding from God and living in our #momfails for longer than we’d like to admit. If that’s your situation, it’s time to take that first step back toward the God who loves you more than life itself. 

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Stacey Pardoe is a lover of the woods, a passionate and imperfect follower of Christ, the mother of two blue-eyed children, the wife of Darrell, and much more. A certified special education teacher, Stacey is on leave from the classroom for a season of chasing frogs and playing in creeks with her little ones. She writes words about her walk of faith in the in-between moments, and she mentors and teaches the Bible to younger women. Most of all, she is desperate to live out the love the Lord has lavished upon her and make that love known to the world. She writes weekly at www.staceypardoe.com and loves to interact with her readers on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, & Pinterest.

Interested in writing for Scattered Woman? We’re always looking for other mamas to collaborate with us! If you have guest post ideas about healing health, finding faith, restoring relationships, or crafting careers, please email laura{at}scatteredwoman{dot}com. We’re excited to work with you!

10 thoughts on “Three Truths to Remember When You Fail as a Mom

  1. wow this is beautiful. Just now entering motherhood it is encouraging to read the truths this post speaks. We need to remember we are forgiven, God is still working in us as moms and he helps us get through the day.

  2. This is such a great post. I’m due with my first child in a month and I know without a doubt there will be times I’m going to fail her and I know it will be hard for me to handle. Thankfully Jesus gives us grace during those times!

    • Yes, Madison. I fail more than I ever thought I would! I’m learning to look to the root of my sins and see the times when my desire for control or comfort led to anger, and I’m experiencing God’s grace on a whole new level in this season!

  3. We’re likely to fail as a mom at any moment, but night time has the biggest probability, we’re tired, we’re ready for some grown up time, or sleep, sleep is good. If the husband works outside and it’s summer, he’s on fumes, and that feeds the fire. I’m grateful that God has already forgiven tonights mistakes, and restore me, when I go to him 🙂

    • This is so true, Aryn! I had a bath time meltdown just two nights ago when a little guy wouldn’t get out of the tub, my husband was working, and I was running on fumes. I’m thankful for God’s grace, and I’m so thankful for that quiet whisper of conviction that nudges me to turn to him and dig a little deeper into why I’m angry in those moments. He’s showing me that my desires to accomplish my agenda and pursue comfort sometimes lead me to lose it. Digging to those roots instead of excusing them is taking this to a whole new level in my life.

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