Are there parts of the holidays you really wish you could just skip? Does the hustle & bustle of the season leave you exhausted & stressed out? Check out these tips for each Personality on how to beat holiday overwhelm!
Would you believe that, according to the APA, 68% of Americans say they feel fatigued during the holidays? Even if we’re not running low on energy, 61% of us say we’re stressed. And 52% say we feel extra irritable during the “happiest time of the year.” What’s “merry & bright” about feeling overwhelmed & unable to enjoy the season? Let’s talk about the best holiday survival tips for each Personality type & how to beat the odds this season!
If you’re new to The Personalities, be sure to check out this Overview of The Personalities so you’ll know what all these crazy names mean. ? For even more Personalities awesomeness and how we can use this tool to improve all of our relationships, you can also check out these posts:
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- How to Use The Personalities & Emotional Needs to Improve Relationships
- How to Use The Personalities to Improve Your Marriage
- How to Use The Personalities to Improve Relationships with Your Kids
- The Ultimate Holiday Gift Guide for Every Personality
Holiday Struggles & Survival Tips for Each Personality
Popular Sanguine Holiday Struggle
For Sanguines, life is at its best when it’s FUN! Unfortunately, all the shopping, entertaining, and budgeting for the holidays require a lot of planning. It’s a lot of overwhelming details for Sanguines who really just want to spend time with their loved ones and enjoy the season.
So, let’s get that planning over, done, & on paper as quickly as possible, so you can get on with the FUN!
Popular Sanguine Holiday Survival Tip
Find a Holiday Planning workbook like this one from Living Well, Spending Less — and BONUS: it’s full of cute & festive printables to help you decorate and keep you inspired throughout the planning process!
Then set aside dedicated time to think through all the gifts, meals, events, and other planning that needs to be done. Most holiday planners will help you think through ALL the details you might otherwise miss — or not think about until it’s time to deal with it!
You can do all your planning in one sitting — just to get it out of the way — or you can set aside a few minutes each night to think through few pages. Whatever works best for you!
Once you have the plan in place and recorded for easy reference, you’ll be able to focus on the FUN and the PEOPLE, and not the never-ending to-do list. ?
Perfect Melancholy Holiday Struggle
For Melancholies, the holidays are about celebrating with close family & friends, special traditions, and meaningful experiences. An endless stream of holiday parties — even if they truly enjoy the people throwing them — and family gatherings with large crowds can quickly become overwhelming for these Introverts.
Melancholies also tend to despise small talk, and these holiday gatherings are FULL of people making pleasant chit-chat and asking loads of innocently-prying/nosy, personal questions. (Anybody ever been single or childless at the holidays??) For Melancholies, it’s draining!
Since the emotional needs of Space & Silence are SO key for Melancholies this time of year, be sure to build in time for plenty of self-care!
Perfect Melancholy Holiday Survival Tip
Prioritize quiet time. Schedule in breaks from people and time to get away. If your kiddos still take naps, go “watch the monitor” in a different room and take some time for just you. Read a good book, pray for peace & sanity, or even take a quick nap yourself!
To handle all those personal questions, have a “script” ready to go for all those topics you know will come up: work, health, kids, family, etc. Having a quick answer already prepared (that you will probably have to repeat over and over again) can help you answer loving friends and family honestly, while conserving brainpower and energy.
Powerful Choleric Holiday Struggle
In some ways, Cholerics LOVE the holiday season because there is always SOME job that needs doing — and Cholerics THRIVE in leadership vacuums.
No one to lead the children’s choir? Sure, I’ll do it!
Someone needs to organize the menu for the annual, family get-together? Of course, I can!
While Cholerics are quick to jump in and take charge when needed, it is easy to become overwhelmed by doing ALL. THE. THINGS. Particularly if they end up doing ALL. THE THINGS. all by themselves. If no one else jumps in to help with all their projects, Cholerics can easily feel unappreciated for all their hard work and abandoned. (Read: NOT having their Emotional Needs for Loyalty and Appreciation met!)
Powerful Choleric Holiday Survival Tip
Prioritize by paring down the to-do list. Maybe you don’t have to lead ALL. THE. THINGS. this year. Focus on the 1 or 2 things that are most important to you and choose to let the other things go.
Then, delegate. Do the things that ONLY YOU can do, then assign tasks to the rest of the family either in keeping with their gifts, talents, & interests or just to whomever can get the job done! Use those persuasive skills to rally the troops & accomplish your top goals this season.
Peaceful Phlegmatic Holiday Struggle
Phlegmatics love their people and getting to spend time with them, but much like the other Introverted Personality — the Melancholies — they can easily become overwhelmed with busy-ness. With so many social engagements, there is just not enough downtime, too many things to do in not enough days and hours, and way too many things vying for their focus and attention.
It’s important for Phlegmatics to carve out time for peace & quiet, just like the Melancholy tip above. But, the Phlegmatic holiday overwhelm also stems from having too many items on a never-ending to-do list and feeling like they will never get it all done.
Peaceful Phlegmatic Holiday Survival Tip
Set a timer for 5 minutes and brain dump ALL. THE. THINGS. onto a sheet of paper. Don’t try to organize or structure it. Just get it down on paper and out of your head.
When the timer goes off, then go back and prioritize the craziness. What things are MOST important to you and your family this season? What do you absolutely HAVE to do? What can you choose to NOT do in order to build in more peace & unstructured downtime?
Then, pick ONE THING to do today. Just ONE. Don’t worry about the rest of the list.
Tomorrow, revisit your list and pick ONE THING for that day, and so on throughout the season. If you’d rather, after you prioritize, you could put ONE thing on your calendar for each day. While you’re looking at your calendar, be sure to schedule in downtime every day — especially when you know there will be a lot going on that is outside of your control.
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Also, don’t forget to grab your handy Personalities Simplified Cheatsheet to help you remember the types, how to recognize them, & what they need emotionally. Who knows, maybe you will get to help someone ELSE survive this holiday season with this information! What better way to spread the joy of the season that to help relieve someone’s overwhelm, eh? ?
As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to teach and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.